For most mums, giving birth is a positive experience, they feel an immense sense of achievement, exhilaration, peace and full of complete joy.
We see births on TV or in the movies, we may read about the positive birth experiences of celebrities, and in the majority, they are often described as exactly that, a positive birth experience.
But sadly, as a result of birth trauma, that's not the same for every mum. For a silent group of mums, what should be a defining moment in their life, is not always the positive experience they expected or were told.
Many mums suffering with post-natal birth trauma have waited days, weeks, months and even years for it to pass so they can experience all the joys motherhood. Many mums talk about how they carry emotions such as guilt, shame and sadness which can often turn to depression, anxiety and panic attacks. .
Often the weight of having to pretend to be happy and content can just add to this emotional burden. To make matters worse, being told by well-meaning friends, family and medical staff about how they should be feeling just adds to the burden of guilt at feeling the way they do.
And that's because our society is intent with bypassing of our natural feelings and emotions, making it unsafe to fully express how we really feel in the fear of upsetting others or made to feel less than. This falseness and pressure of having to put on that happy face can create further internal emotional pressure, and which no amount of happy one-line Facebook slogans is going to fix or change.
Post abortion trauma and post-abortion syndrome are the psychological effects of abortion. Any traumatic event can cause PTSD, and abortion is no exception. It's a form of PTSD which can start from the moment of making the decision, or experiencing the procedure and living with the distress, guilt, grief, pain and regret afterwards.
Many women don't relate their distress to the abortion experience. At some point emotions resurface and the truth of this loss can no longer be denied.
The symptoms of post abortion trauma and stress syndrome may appear immediately after an abortion, or much later.
Typically the symptoms can be: guilt, anxiety, depression, dissociation, suicidal thoughts, abreactions, nightmares, panic attacks, eating disorders, alcohol and drug abuse.
The majority of women i've helped have held their secret in for years and have rarely spoken or discussed it with anyone else.
You may have already tried talking therapies and support groups, positive affirmations, excercise, spa days, Reiki, maybe even medication or self medication through other means. But, it hasn't had any long term effect. In fact, they may have made you feel worse!
That's because none of the above methods work with the emotional and physical side of the trauma, and so the solution through hypnotherapy is to work with your unconscious mind to allow it to naturally release these pent-up emotions or internalised traumas. When we do that the body drains the emotional swamp, and you find emotional peace and strength to enjoy life again.
The truth is that you're allowed to connect, feel and express those thoughts and feelings which have contributed to the way you feel.
Does some of that sound familiar? Are you ready to take that first step to take back control? If so, then call me on 01772 499046, or email me by clicking here.
The cost per session is £60, with each session lasting around 2 hours.
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