What to expect in a hypnotherapy session

When most people think of a hypnosis session they may have a perception of a hypnotist waving a clock around and telling them that they feel so sleepy, after which they plant suggestions to make you stop panicking or able to overcome some fear or phobia.

That all sounds simple and straightforward, but if it really was that simple then all you'd need to do is listen to a self hypnosis recording and you'd be done.

Therapy with me is about addressing the real issues and the real causes of the issues that are affecting your life.

To find out more, call me on 01772 499046, or email me by clicking here.

What happens on the first session?

Your initial session is designed to provide the foundation needed for you to be successful. It's very much aimed at getting an understanding of what's going on.

Even at this early stage we take as much time as necessary and start to release some of the pressure inside of you so that you can begin to feel some immediate relief.

Throughout the process you are in control of the work we do, and so we only ever work at your pace and with your permission.

What happens at subsequent sessions?

Further sessions lead us to where the problem started. We then work with your unconscious mind to change the perception by releasing the emotion of what created the issue.

Once the emotion is released, you get to see things differently, you get a new insight as the memory is re-processed, at which point the behaviour changes as your unconscious mind realises that the reason it was created in the first place no longer exists.

All sessions are different and are based on what you're looking to resolve. The key to success is to be honest, open and ready to work with what comes up, because when you do, changes can occur quickly.

We work with the unconscious mind, and instead of trying to tell it to change or bully it into changing we treat it with respect.

So how do issues and problems develop? - The law of cause and effect!

The universal law of cause and effect states that for every effect there is a cause, and it’s the same with the things that affect our lives. Be it a phobia, anxiety, depression, PTSD, addictions, IBS , low self esteem and a whole host of other issues.

When you boil it down, something happened to trigger that response, whether physical, emotional or both, and unless it was sorted and processed at the time, it can still affect us years later. Like when we dwell on past events and they still generate strong feelings.

The concept of unfinished business.

“Unfinished business” is a term used to describe unresolved emotions and memories that a person has unconsciously repressed or avoided dealing with. Often it’s because these emotions are too overwhelming or traumatic at the time, they aren’t fully processed.

Since they are unresolved, they linger in the background like a super sensitive alarm system ready to alert us.

So from nowhere the sadness, grief, fear, anger, anxiety, jealousy, mistrust and a whole host of other emotions associated with these events can just appear without us consciously knowing why. And every time we avoid dealing with them, they get stronger.

The unfinished business in our lives really does control and limit our ability to do the things we want to do. From applying for a particular job, getting on a plane or train, go into a crowded area or any other number of issues.

Research has shown that unfinished business is associated with anxiety, depression, addictions and interpersonal problems.

As we grow we become very good at developing ways to cope or avoid our uncomfortable feelings. Typically these coping and avoidance techniques can be smoking, drinking, eating, shopping, drugs, gambling, shopping, partying, adrenaline fuelled activities and so on. But no amount of these distractions can help in the long term as they are simply distractions and can add more pressure.

The movie player in our heads that keeps us safe - allegedly!

Our emotions are connected to past events, and can be viewed as an instant video replay of how we felt at that time. Often these past events knock us out of balance physically and emotionally. Being human, we may try to cope with these events by shutting them down, distracting and avoid thinking about them as best we can.

These instant replays are always connected to past events, as we only view and filter life through our past events. PTSD is a good example of unfinished and unprocessed business. The event happened and unless it was fully processed at the time, the emotion becomes locked in our bodies and mind.

So next time we are in a similar situation, our unconscious goes “this reminds me of...”, and brings up the associated feelings and automatic responses connected to the first time it was felt.

We don’t all suffer PTSD, but to varying degrees the process of suffering with anxiety, depression etc is identical. As an example, we may want to go out with friends or get on a plane, we can try to convince ourselves that we do. Yet, we step into that situation and BOOM, our bodies respond as if it was the first time, plus it adds in the extra pressure of all the times we avoided these feelings, till eventually we may give up and not bother anymore.

So to move forward and be totally free, any unfinished and unresolved business has to be resolved.

Experts estimate that we have between 60,000 – 80,000 thoughts a day. That's an average of 3,500 – 4,700 thoughts per waking hour. Wow! So it’s no wonder we can quickly become overwhelmed and lost in our thoughts.

What’s the answer, and how does hypnotherapy help?

But surely the past is the past!

Yes it’s true that something happened, and it’s in the past. But hearing, saying or thinking that rarely helps. To be free and clear we have to process these old memories and events.

When we access them we can fully process them and clear the false perceptions that were created at the time.

In effect, we have to complete the cycle, or close the circle. Have you ever had an app or computer program that locks up at the same point when you use it? In programming terms it’s described as no exit strategy, or stuck in a loop. Our minds can do the same with past memories and events.

Have you ever heard the term “if i knew then what I know now”?

Well through regression hypnotherapy we work to find the root cause to process these old incidents and memories which created these feelings. We work through the false perceptions and put in its place what we realise and know now to be true.

When we work through and emotionally clear the memories, we effectively close the loop and it doesn’t occur again.

The benefits of working with unfinished business.

By clearing and resolving unfinished business and events you basically get your life back. You can live free of the anxiety, depression, compulsions, trauma and feel more emotionally balanced and at peace and free to be yourself.

What's analytical hypnotherapy and how is it used?

Analytical regression hypnotherapy is about seeking to discover and deal with the root causes of the problem. We then work with your unconscious mind to change the perception by releasing the emotion of what created the issue.

Once the emotion is released, you get to see things differently, you get an insight as the memory is re-processed at which point the behaviour changes as your unconscious mind realises that the reason it was created in the first place no longer exists.

During the sessions we take things one step at a time and work at your pace. The process is progressive with each session builds on the previous one.

That makes sense, so whats the next step?

Is it time for you to take that first step to take back control? If so, then call me on 01772 499046, or email me by clicking here.

Chris Gelder hypnotherapist, NLP, EFT